Guys! Where has this July gone? The girls and I were driving home today from this past weekend’s Northern Michigan wedding (you can see more over here!) and were in disbelief at how quickly the summer and truly this entire year has passed by. With one wedding to go in August, the Trouvaille Workshop mid-month and then come Labor Day and fall, a final Hey Gorgeous wedding and three big trips before slowing down for the holidays and my maternity leave (I cannot believe I just wrote that out!) we are more than half way done with 2015. It’s been a year for the books. I’m sure 2016 is going to be even sweeter too as we become a family of three.
Almost four months ago in April, I wrote my last financial contentment post. That same week we had gone to our first consultation with our fertility specialist after finally getting a recommendation from my doctor. We left that consult feeling an odd mix of emotions; a little defeated because of the extra steps we would have to take to make our dream of parenthood a reality but funny enough, pretty grateful for answers and a game plan we could look ahead to. When I wrote this post here my mind was admittedly set on all of the things we would need to financially pay for along our journey to baby. Andrew and I diligently rearranged our budget in order to do so and with that it was back on the #contentmentchallenge (a la Nancy Ray which you can read more about here). We were truly looking ahead to the future and our scheduled appointments with open arms and hearts.
But God had other plans for us. About a month later we were blessed with the news of naturally and miraculously conceiving Sweet Baby Bosse, just two days before Mother’s Day. Best Mother’s Day gift ever. We were shocked! And well, while we are so grateful to have taken a less invasive and expensive route to conceive our little babe, we still need to be financially savvy to care for and nurture this child when he or she arrives in January. This post from Nancy’s husband Will is full of insight (actually his entire blog is; I really encourage you to check it out and spend some time soaking up his wisdom) and really opened my eyes to some smart ways to be more financially responsible and content given our growing fam. Onto my debrief!
Week Twenty Seven
What has not been working: Since finding out I was pregnant, I’ve really struggled with 1. feeling like I can buy myself, Andrew and the baby things to celebrate this victory and 2. being responsible and content with our money. There is a TON of information out there selling this and that to first time parents isn’t there? It’s really hard to navigate the waters of preparing for baby when you want to do the right thing as a parent to this little person and 99% of the stuff being thrown your way is so closely tied to your emotions! Hormones anyone? I’ve also been so nervous of missing something special throughout this process (like a cute outfit for announcement photos, a chalkboard to document baby’s size each week with my growing belly, realizing how pricey all those cute baby things are I’ve been pinning over the years, etc) that I’ve been guilty of buying unnecessary things here and there. I feel guilty for even admitting this so publicly because my dreams of being a mama have never been fuelled by materialistic things but my heart’s been torn often in fear of not feeling or coming across as excited and joyful as I feel. I welcome any thoughts or perspectives on this below from moms or mamas to be!
What has been working: Throughout this Year of Content challenge, I’ve started to notice some really tiny but significant changes in my perspective and thoughts particularly towards the accumulation of ‘stuff’ in my life. Restoration Hardware Baby? Beautiful but not necessary for us and our budget. And that’s OK. Truly I’m content with that because it’s what works for us! All the cute little $35 Baby Gap newborn outfits our babe will grow out of within a month or two or making their debut? Again adorable but not a necessity here for us. We also invested some time and effort to host a big garage sale about a month ago to get rid of all the things in our home and garage we don’t use or need. It was a huge success financially for us so we sealed all of the money we made into an envelope and labelled it with “Baby Nursery.” That bank envelope is still sealed and sitting on the floor of our empty baby nursery ready to go towards some of the bigger necessities we will need to invest in in the next four months. That feels really great to have a bit of a cushion to add to the babe budget.
Short term goal: To go back on the #contentmentchallenge with Andrew until September 24th.
Long term goal: To manage/adjust my income in late 2015/2016 with my desired maternity leave plan.
Feel free to leave your experiences below and to share them with the hashtag #theyearofcontent
Happy Weekend friends xoxo