How to Be An Imperfectionist

One thing I’ve learned about myself, especially so throughout this year as I’ve faced multiple big professional and personal transitions, is despite my best efforts I still struggle with failing short of perfect. How silly to so often feel paralyzed by being less than when I’m wise enough to know I’ll never be perfect.

So in an effort to inspire fellow perfectionists out there, or perhaps as a way to gently remind myself that trying my best regardless of the outcome is plenty enough, here’s a list I’ve compiled of ways to be an imperfectionist.

ONE

Surround yourself with people who embrace their own shortcomings and flaws. When you see others leaning into their imperfect (whether perceived on their own or otherwise) qualities with confidence and joy, it’s easier to do that same thing yourself. Some of my favorite people to be around are not perfect but in fact very much aware of being the opposite, and that’s inspiring and grounding for me.

TWO

Have an open mindset. A lot of times when I find myself falling short of perfection, it’s a spark that ignites a negative fire I have a hard time putting out. For example, I can make a silly soap mistake and instead of looking at the slip up as a chance to learn and grow, I start rattling off how I’m terrible at everything, how unimportant soap is in the world, what a waste of time my efforts were, and so on. Talk about beating myself up and starting a negative internal verbal fight! An open mindset can totally change the direction of your inner dialogue and have a profound impact on how you view yourself and actions; imperfections and all.

THREE

Take inventory of your imperfections from every angle (literally and metaphorically, it’s up to you) and get honest with yourself. Falling short of perfection allows us to come face to face with our weaknesses and sometimes, our greatest fears. But perhaps this isn’t a bad thing. Maybe this is just the way we best learn, grow, evolve, and become who we are meant to be, in learning more about who we are not. I’ve uncovered a lot this year about what it means to be an imperfect woman, and while it’s felt ugly, it’s also felt really liberating.

FOUR

Instead of trying to be perfect all the time, try to be perfect at just doing your best. My need for perfection never serves me well when I’m with my children being their mom. It also leaves me feeling discontent when I strive to have a perfect home. I get easily defeated when I work hard to make my business perfect. When I try to look or act or sound perfect, I get exhausted. All because I always fall short! So instead, I try to simply be perfect at doing my best with the expectation that regardless of the outcome, I’m enough.

As always, take care of yourselves and guard your hearts, friends! Xo

September 2019 Goals

Did anyone miss my August goals? Ha! No worries, I did too folks. It turns out four weddings, a road trip to North Carolina with two kids under four, three-day conference, and a trip to Canada while nursing a 9 month old, all in the span of six weeks amounts to a shortage of spare time. As such my end-of-summer goals were put on the back burner. While I missed my regular cathartic process of writing posts which helps hold myself accountable, I surprisingly enjoyed the time away to focus on some new pivots and changes unfolding over the next quarter.

In my September newsletter I alluded to a few of the upcoming changes I’ll be making come the end of the year and start of 2020. The feedback from everyone has been so encouraging and positive! August felt a bit bittersweet and I found myself often feeling restless and melancholy? I’d be lying if I told you that didn’t have a little to do with being away. So the messages from readers helped kick me into gear and I finally reflected back on my 2019 goals to get back on track for the remainder of the year. If you want to recap my goals for the year, you can do so here. And if you want to catch my new email newsletter you can sign up here!

I won’t recap my July goals because they were extremely simple. Since they were are commitment-geared too, they all happened with ease! Instead I’ll go right into what’s coming this month, which may I add, is a whole lot! It’s a full 4+ weeks ahead, and I’m ready to dive in and welcome a new season with open arms.

My September goals:

• Enjoy my evening out with the girls celebrating the end of wedding season
• Start music class with Everett and enjoy our one on one adventure time
• Execute a beautiful 10 year anniversary party for Renee Austin Wedding
• Celebrate nine years of marriage to my favorite person with a date night
• Have family photos taken to capture us in this season / Ev turning one
• Write my new website copy (focus on the About Me & Services page)
• Start (and finish!) a new proposal for a special project; prayers here!
• Finish making all of the soap I want to sell at the November craft fair

My weekly September goals:

• Carve out one day a week for a workout at the Y or attend a F45 class
• Soak up the last bit of outdoor-appropriate weather with the boys
• Attend weekly counselling sessions and biweekly marriage counselling
• Sing my guts out at church without worrying about being off-key
• Blog one to two new posts each week!

As always, link to your own goals below. I’d love to support you! Xo

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